They dont have childrenHe is still cheating wht a woman named Cecilia for the past 9 years. This isnt your fault he is either an addict or He has been doing it his entire life. Why hold on to a bad relationship? Everytime she comes picks up the kids, these feelings come up. All the Best. If these men truly knew what they did to those they proclaim to love by these indiscretions, they would never start them in the first place. If you thinkyour husband is cheating on you, you may be picking up on subconscious clues that he is having an affair. He had too much free time and was making good money. He just blames it on stress with work. I have more of a life than the time to be following someone that doesnt want to be with me! It almost seems to me like they quit making that model. Am just tired and i dont know what else to do. At least if you want something exclusive with this man. But I never felt that I was being cheated until 4 months ago. The most important thing you need to do after hearing this devastating news is to find out if its definitely true. He went to theatre to watch it. Faithfulness and marriage will become something of the past and soon enough obsolete. Believe me miss lady you deserve all types of happiness especially in a relationship. Yes man cheat and you can tell. While he continues to live here. He came home the end of January and we tried, but he wouldnt give her up. he also told me she did say he likes him but continues this. Finally he admitted it and said it happened twice. The confusion and shock is almost overwhelming at first! Oh how I feel your pain. I just need to know 100% the truth before I walk away i need clousure. Protecting the affair partner. You can be free, you can be healthy, you can learn to love again if you so choose. I decided to forgive him and he decided to deactivate his Facebook. Now, a few months ago, I noticed he was acting different again. We havent been able to reconnect emotionally very well in the past 3 years. I didnt want to be living with his parents anymore and he wouldnt be financially ready to move for awhile. Then my husband finally confessed that they were having virtual sex (he swears nothing physical happened). 6 Tips, When Your Life Feels Empty and Meaningless Without Love. He has 3 children and I am very close with all of them. Asked him what he wanted the night before. i dont know if he has cheated on me or not but when i do ask he tells me no he hasnt but turns around and accuses me of doing it. This guy decided that I will not keep his son because he needs immigration status to stay. We sorted it and move on, he got a new job and the lies are back but this time he lied about a business trip and who he went with. Paper conversation turned into i miss you and love you/ wanting you back i guess he wanted to feel wanted and needed by this women. Hi all- I have been married for 43 yrs. He did and spent Christmas with her and her family.I filed for divorce two weeks later. Which made me think was he thinking of her. I think my father in law shut her down and told her simething like , be a woman and to call me. WellI have no way of knowing if your husband and sister are both lying about cheatingbut I think you need to listen to your gut instincts. However, this is extremely unhealthy for both you and those around you. They never lived together, it was just a fraud. Also last year I found another conversation with another one of his co workers that he was trying to hangout with ( a girl) and was telling her that he really wants to hangout and he would lie to me and say he is at work or working out. They say it is simply over the kids, but I feel there is something more going on. Plz help. Im not sure why Im with him. She was born the year we graduated from high school. My husband started cheating when I left for a job. My oldest just had surgery and my husband and I stayed with him at the hospital. Youre the only person you can change.what changes do you need to make, in order to be happy in this relationship? I used to think I was in therapy because of how my parents treated me, or because my wife was emotionally abusive, or because she had cheated on me, etc, etc. I was in the store for about 15 minutes or so. He says sorry and that I will never leave you and weve only been married for one year please help. You did the right thing by telling your mom that he cheated. He Denies it and try to cover it up . I havent met her but I am scared it will be like last time. Well, I text her from my husbands phone while he was asleep and acted like him and asked if she still had the text and she said she had deleted them. And it is true, what goes around comes around. you dont like the guy? I still dont know if Im getting the whole truth. Do you trust God or a Higher Power to take care of you, love you, and give you the life you deserve? I finally asked again-he says: just forget it, there is no one. I know this sounds crazy after all these years but i keep thinking about it and really dont know if he is telling me the truth or not. More than 50% of all men have cheated in a love relationship, says Dr Oz. My kids were brought up in that messed up house, where they didnt see a strong woman, their mother, me because I didnt know how to say Im sooo unhappy, I want you to leave & never come back.no more explanations!! A few months went by, we were still talking here and there. To this day he still denies having sex with the woman, but a known fact via text messages was that the taxed secretly from his work phone and where planning to meet up on one or her days off of work I had to work really hard but I forgave him and tried to move on but everytime I think about it I feel like Im being lied to again. Do you have to wait until the lease is up to separate? Your email address will not be published. Is it that he is bored with me and cant connect? Since then he has a new phone number so i cant check his phone as it never leaves his side as well as a email at work, Do you think he is cheating again? Be happy. I have no idea what to do! I thought I knew him: this is my husband on work stress. I dont get it. He would threaten me with leaving every time my eyes got watery or when I was trying to find some answers. I wish I would have realized that he was an insecure, selfish, narcissist before I had invested all of this time and made the prospect of leaving so complicated. It can be very difficult to know if your husband is cheating and lying. 5 years after, for this year to be exact, i happened to brows his facebook history, there i saw that hes been checking her facebook profile almost every month but when i confronted him, he didnt get angry but told me that there was nothing between them. Should I wait until I move closer to him where I can see him day in and day out and then decide or is he already giving me signs that Im confused on? It is possible to recover from an affair, but it takes time and frankly, a professional to help. I hope what you said to her made an impact! My ex, Danny (my daughters father) was the worst kind of man. Okay, he finally moved out. He still finds me physically attractive because he still wants me but I feel that he is trying to distance himself from me. you have never trusted me is what I hear now. I trusted him with my every being. He didnt answer any of my calls nor did he return my calls as he usually does. Ummm okay. He is my first and only and i was so happless. Now, if you walked in on him in bed with another woman, then you know hes cheating for sure. The thoughts that went through my mind drove me insane. Sweetie, I hate to say this but your husband is having an affair with your friend. What is holding you back from walking out of your marriage? Than I forgot about it. How often do you two make love? He always wanted to please her, he always offered to help her with her class-works (even to his own hurt). I could t hear the message cause his phone is blocked, but I honestly suspect he keeps lying to me. He just wanted to feel something. To learn more from Gary Neuman, readhis bookThe Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It. You must tell someone. He even went as far as to tell me that he wants a DNA test to make sure that the baby is his. have there been questions asked? he just does according to him. Maybe few. He brought two dogs into the marriage that get more attention that I do. Yes he made the whole story up. We have been through so much together. I made a choice to envite another woman into my bed. i just want to know the truth. I didnt. The number #1 factor that causes men to behave this way is actually relatively easy to change with a few subtle things you can say to him. Which is a very reasonable thing to do, however, you shouldnt just take him back without setting up some boundaries. He has to want to get help, he has to decide its time to overcome his problem. Its interesting to hear your perspective, especially that you dont lie about your affairs. Some men dont care about their child but still ask for custody. I tried calling him several times after the concert should have been over. He once was mad at me and told my why dont you just go and have an affair 7. He says he cant be having an affair because hes home everynight. He dont see how this is affected or family.. he said know. I have tried speaking to my wife about it many times but her attitude is what we did before was the past and what we do now is how it is and deal with it. If course, she wouldnt . Is my marriage over? Of course it is possible that he is but his behavior also may just be him pulling away. I have been married for 32yrs my husband cheated on me all that time .then he had sex agirl from there and he had cheated on with younger girl at gas station .he never stop ever he still doing it he said he love me but it hard to believe and trust him ever he go every morning to see the one of them her he wants to have baby with but her. Yet to this day he expects me to say sorry to him for accusing him. Thank You. I know love can withstand the test if time. And bingo!!! We do have an 8 month old baby boy btw. I was sickened that he was with us both in the same day. I bbmed him again and told him, why is the history clear if your not hiding anything from me, if you did what i think you did, I hate you. She just looked at me and said nothing both times. Im thinking about just giving up and not ever bringing it up again. Can you start moving on now even if its just by looking for your own place? He tells me things like you need to pack your stuff and go back to florida and ill sign my rights away for our son. Please help. He only deletes txt he doesnt want me to see and it makes it hard for me to move past the whole cheating in the beginning. Companionship = Man. Thank you for being here it took alot of courage to open up and share the way you did. Joy, freedom, and strength comes not from within, but from our Creator. His reasoning for it was he was heart broken coz his wife cheated on him & was hurt which is what led to the affair. A few hours later I look again and find he had deleted the app. I thought it strange because I didnt know he knew her that well.She works at the hospital where he works as a cashier in the cafeteria. The study is the first to look at how demographics, interpersonal factors and sexual personality affect infidelity. you see my fiance was searching for his ex on googele the other day and when i taslked to him about it this morning he told me he wanted to see her fail at life and I asked him why and he told me because she rejected him when they were younger and the thing it that as far as I know him and and her was 12 years ago and him and i have been together now for 8 years and i dont see how it should matter to him whether or not she fails at life because she has nothing to do with us unless this happened recently and the way i see it is he is with me he has kids with me so why should she matter to him? Are your kids all boys? This lady has broke a married mans home with 3 children now and shes about to have mine again Ive talk to his ex wife about it and she said they tried things to make her think she was crazy like put insects in her bed and clothes when things bite her he would say shes crazy or take and hide her things and said she misplaced them, now Im going thru the same thing and want him out but he want leave he lies to me about having anything to do with her but I know he does. i have questions on how to chatch me cheating husbans. Now it has been almost a year that my husband do not show felings, he doesnt tell me he loves me, we dont do any kind of activity together. I cant tell you whether you need to stay or go. After ten years, his answers will not change. (Fast forward)We moved together to another place and it still didnt work. Which made me so blind to it all. She also send me a picture of them at the club. But dont know if I should tho? Tell someone! What do you think? So he came home , I couldnt trust him and things just got worse. It comes naturally. Then I noticed that he messages or calls his roommate early in the morning like around the time they should be leaving for work. Hes adamant that he would never cheat. You would look me directly in the face with loving eyes and tell me that it was nothing. I always ask him to take a test..but the answer will be no. Out of all the nights to check and all of the times he deleted texts before coming home, this one night, he forgot. .remind her that she is always worth the effort and the romance for a month and I bet your whole relationship will change for the better! May you know deep in your heart and soul the right thing to do, and may you feel confident in how you choose to bring the matter up. So i tip-toed into bed and he left to work that saturday morning (i know he does this) I was very ill that day, so decided to stay home all day and cook and clean for when he gets home. I come from affluent well to do family were things were more about vanity and luxury. I cringe when he tries to hold me when im in tears or falling to the floor because my legs cant hold me up. The email said meet me in the gym at 12.15..you own me a pilates class. It turned out to be one of his ex-girlfriends and she had something she wanted to share with me. They will try to blame you for not being able to trust. My Boyfriend left for a few days for vacation with his friends, then when he came back he started being a little bit mysterious. I confronted him the next day about this and he admitted he had a crush on her but that nothing happened between them. It finally evolved to me confront my husband about them being emotionally attached to one another(since that was obvious especially on her end). I tried to accept that and let it go, but time only made me more angry. Ive been to counceling and Ive tried and tried to put this behind me but it seems it will not go away. You are worth more! Over time, it will help you work through your feelings and help you decide what your next steps should be. The more they know you suspect or know the more they will try and hide it and the harder it will be for them to get caught! Id gladly swap this jittery post-nightmare reality for what we had before (which was a happy marriage) to not have to have gone through that. and its always the same stuff. Nonetheless, as weve stated above women still cheat, I just think that its probably a bit less frequently than men. Recently my husband is visiting Hong Kong. I did not see any photos. Its just sex for my husband. The problem is to really say. InHealing Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken: Finding Forgiveness and Restoration,Cindy Beall describes how her life changed forever after an ordinary Valentines Day. Dating advice for women and men, plus tips for love relationships. When a womans instinctual desires for these things are not being met, she is more likely to stray than a woman who feels secure with her mate. He did all the bull.. your crazy that woman is a whore. whiteflag said: My husband gave me an STD, he wont admit that he cheated and tries to get me to believe that maybe I had it for yrs (we been married 6) and Im just seeing the signs. Here are 4 expert-approved actions to take when your man has cheated. While he was reserving the room, the womans mom called and said she was going to come to our city and spend the night with her daughter because she didnt trust my husband when he said that he was not going to spend the night with her daughter. She trusted her gut her intuition and she was right. Congratulations on your baby I hope all is well! I would Like to know if thats possible. An ultimatum isnt even in question. There was another married couple, her, and another female who was single. I also found hed subscribed to a number of online cheating websites for married people..dating back to before he proposed to me. I can see why it would bother people and some might consider it a threat especially if it is robbing you from receiving the attention you deserve. Its been quite a while since I commented on here or read anything on here. Any of these women could turn up at your home or God forbid pass an STD on to you. He saw that it bothered me and did nothing about it. 9. He said he had worked with this girl many years ago and they were friends then. He is a marine and we are living overseas right now with our two kids. hi! She had a problem with this becuase where ever we went, there were people that knew me, so i decided to take her out of town where this would hopefully not be a problem. he said she didnt want to go home and he was worried that she and her boyfriend were going to have problems if he didnt take her home and she kept refusing to go home so he said that he dropped her off at another bar. He cannot give of himself. We moved onwards from there, but it always felt like something was wrong. Quite simply, the need to be right at all times is a defense mechanism. Sometimes its better to just let go. You can read more about me. What should I think, say or do knowing that my husband of 5 years, has a new female best friend 25 years younger than he is. tammy October 31st, 2016 at 10:18 AM I feel so bad for you because it is clear that this has blindsided you and you are just hoping beyond hope that it might not be true. I knew something wasnt right. Maybe he didnt. She was also pentecostal and stopped wearing skirts, started wearing make up and cut her hair. But that title i have not not earned, i was too deceived to believe his words of love & faithfulness. Dear reader, Please help me am confused and i dont know what to do or where to go, i bought my husband a ticket to go to Tunisia on 17juin 2014 when he arrived the next day he phoned me from that country and he i have not heard from him till 27 juin, i tried to phone him without success he bought a ticket on 18 juin next day and flew to morroco, i had that thing say to me that he is cheating because this is not the first time i confronted him but he denies all the times i found numerous time phone numbers that he was calling morocco and i tried that number and that was a women who replied to me and saying his name, when he came back home he hide his passport i asked him where he was he told me that he was in tunisia but he was not i search for hi passport and found it when i confronted him he just ripped the pages of the passport and he gave me the passport to check i can see there is missing pages in the passport he walked away he kept silent till now please help me i dont know what to do. I try to tell myself if he wanted to be with that other woman, he would just leave me. LADIES KNOW YOUR SELF WORTH! My husband worked for a female boss in 2007-2010 during the economic crisis, the company suffered huge financial loss, and she begged him to stay on but stopped paying him. 2. In her book, she describes how to protect a marriage from lies and cheating. M sorry but, I dont spy on anybody so I dont think so! Is it ok that he texts and calls her on a regular basis. I hope it helps, and welcome your thoughts. I do not know this other woman other than to meet her for 10 minutes when I walked into my husbands hospital room 4 months ago and she, along with 3 other young women were in there. I cried. Men with this should NOT get married. There were three calls and he said he only called her once. I wanted to believe, because i LOVE this man. My husband knows this girl have feeling for him since I was pregnant because this girl decided to tell him she has feeling even tho she knew he has pregnant girlfriend.but I know he is not serious about her too.its just annoying because he say I have boyfriend witch I dont. The moment things didnt turn out for him the way he planned and wanted, he was begging me back We are still together, Im mentally stronger and more confident than I was ever before. i have been married for four years now, my husband cheated on me once.. things change now we worked it out.. but i notice hes always interested in online porn than me..he loves me n i love him very much i told him what is doing hurts me but he wont stop its like hes addicted to it please help!!! I pray that God gives you the strength that you need to succeed in this situation. You are the one that counts the most, never let anyone take advantage of you. when he comes home the first ting he does to kiss my cheak, but the rest of the evening he is making himslef busy with the computer or tv or his Iphone, he doesnt do much at home inspite of we both work (something he used to be more helpful before)and if i ask him do something he deosnt like it! May you find peace with whatever your future holds, and may you be strong enough to move forward with what you know in your heart is the right thing for you to do. I know this sounds bad. He became a monster and put even my own lawyer on his side inventing stories that Im a difficult person and dirty when he never even flush the toilet. Id also like to add that therapy and books are wonderful way to get insight on this issue but a real discussion is much more effective with people who dont know you personally and will not be bias or possibly because you are paying for their expertise. Honey, I know you dont want to hear this, but PLEASE get away from him while you are young and still can!! Suspicion, paranoia, and distrust are unpleasant, unhappy places to be. I was in such a state about Mom, that clearly I wasnt thinking but did email her and assumed by hearing from me and knowing my mother was dying , this woman woukd have the decency to respect boundaries. I found the texts and my world collapsed! I never knew he was a liar until after I married him. Yes, I may get jelous pretty easily about one picture. ive told him it makes me uncomfortable but he says n acts as if he doesnt care or tells me i dont trust him. I also have to concur that monogomy certainly appears to come more easily and natural to the female human than to the male. to all the women on here feeling confused, hurt, betrayed, alone, know I LOVE YOU and understand. CHEATING!!!!!! They are the ones that have to hear all the fights.. As someone who was cheated on, I know all too well the pain, humiliation, and, at least in my case, the feelings of worthlessness that came with it. or is your real problem here is with the trust? Which I can see why because I did rage pretty bad. My aunt had a suspicion and sure enough the guy she hired presented evidence within a matter of days on the job. We even got in to a fight about weed and alchol i dont have a problem with either one i smoke weed but i do not do any other drugs he asked me to stop because he doesnt like it. Nobody shold deal with anxiety issues alone. I dont think Im being nieve but he just isnt the type of person to cheat on me. Personally , I think my husband cant and should not be married . But one day cleaning, I realized these items that were none of my business had never turned up as gifts to me. I wrote another article on how to tell if your husband is lying, with different tips to think about: Is Your Boyfriend Telling Lies? Of course, he always says that hes with his male friend who is 37 years old. I asked if theyd had sex and he said it didnt work out, he couldnt get a hard on, no details He said he called her and told her not to call him anymore, but when I check the phone records he was still calling. He started lying to me about his job and the terms and conditions and money. Please look it up. Then about 4 years ago, I was telling a joke to my other neighbors and there he was laughingI introduced myself to him. my oldest daughters father cheated on me 5 times. Never feel weak going to your doctor as youre not coping, simply sit down and explain what has happened with your husband and marriage. Its a terrible thing, to find out your husband has been cheating and lying. So he hasnt been here in 2 weeks Ive asked him where he is getting his sexual satisification cuz hes a very sexual man he told me hes been masterbating well after 16 days he came over I found in his backpack condoms about 8 which we dont use since Im pregnant so I wonder is he cheating on me. Im glad it helped you, and hope it helps others who might be in the same situation. Then he comes home the very next day, just as happy as if he couldnt wait to see me! I cried and cried. Id always said, I NEVER in a million years go with a married man! It was WRONG!
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